Indicators When Finding Your Soul Mate
To the World, you may be one person. To one person, you may be the World.
Yes you want to live an enriching and meaningful life. And to be able to share your life experience with someone who thinks the world of you is a blessing. While you will meet many people along the way in life’s journey, some will make your acquaintance while the lucky few will become your great friends and one may be your partner in life. A conscious search for your soulmate may make the task harder and your goal more elusive. This is because you may be looking for the special someone but the special someone may not be looking. And emotional commitments can sometimes be quite daunting for most people especially when they still don’t know each other well enough. It scares some people because of many reasons. Any special relationship between two people involves a commitment, implicit or otherwise. Unspoken expectations commonly arise. Sometimes, things can get a little more complicated than what most people can handle. So hold back on the emotional involvement until you are pretty comfortable with your potential partner and that he is comfortable with you. You can have an idea that your relationship is there when you naturally talk about everything in your mind including where you see both yourselves in the future. You want someone who can first be your friend because with friends there are no expectations, at least not big ones. Someone you can rely upon, not just in good times. Someone who doesn’t lose the handle when the road gets rough. You will need to know the person’s true colors by carefully observing the person’s response to daily encounters, not just with you. Of course it feels like you are in heaven when you are his world and everything he does revolves around you. Someone who seems to adore you endlessly. What more do you want? You feel so fulfilled emotionally. What’s there left to think or to decide? You might even tell yourself that you are finally meeting your destiny. Can’t see any bad when it feels so good. That, is romantic love. It is good if it stays that way but it won’t be enough to see your relationship through. You will need more than that to live happily ever after. OK,
Here is what you need. Someone who can be the following to you:
Kind
If he can’t hurt a stranger, he is not going to hurt you. Observe how he treats the maid, gardener, waiter or taxi driver. These are people who are not related or are strangers to him. Of course it would be greatly help if you could observe his reactions to life’s daily encounters especially when he is not aware that you are being watchful.
Kindness is so important because kind people are unselfish and considerate. He will think twice or three times before he does anything which might hurt you. Trust will grow from kindness.
Understanding
You will need to be able to communicate with your potential partner. And obstacles to communications are usually emotions and fixated thinking. Highly emotional people are incapable of having a rationale discussion. The solution is to wait for the person to be calm before any meaningful discussion can take place. The other risk of attempting to proceed with the discussion when one partner is emotionally charged is that both parties could end up being emotionally provoked which invevitably escalates into something undesirable with spoken words which were never truly intended. Even if a partner is agreeable to a discussion but if he doesn’t have a open mind to listen to your views, you could end up being resentful because of the unreceptiveness of the closed mind. The least you did expect of one is to be pepared to agree that you can disagree and that we are all unique beings coming from various backgrounds and beliefs. So seek someone who might have the following attributes:
- Who is not too quickly to respond and will let you have your say
- Who will not lose his cool because of a disagreement
- Who will not put you down or blame you even if you were wrong
- Who does not speak ill of others
- Who forgives easily
- Who respects the nature and the environment. Then you know he is sensitive to things around him
- Who loves children. Then you know he has got patience
- Who can eat almost anything. Then you know he is not too difficult to please
- Who does charitable or social work. Then you know he does not think just of himself
Loving
You will want someone who always have you in his thoughts especially when he is having a good time even in your absence. He will think how nice if you were around because he knows you would also be having a good time. And how do you know that? When he speaks of his experiences he says how much he wished for you to be there with him.
Yes you want someone who is going to be able to make you laugh and feel warm inside. Someone who doesn’t take the world too seriously but you seriously. He is going to be a sensitive person but not towards his own ego and gets hurt easily. His sensitivity will be to you and all that is around him.
WATCHOUT
But a little weary of a guy who:
- Refuses to wear nothing else but branded stuff and the reason is that he is that is that he wants to impress. He might also not be able to distinguish value and is too concerned about what others think of him.
- Borrows money from you all the time and worst still forgets to return you the money.
- Wears a wig because he cannot accept reality and is too concerned with what others think of him.
- Has a credit card bill with extravagant expenses that he does not pay off. You don’t want to be the one to always have to bail him out and that it is an indication of someone who can’t manage his finances properly.
- Gambles frequently and smokes continuously because it shows he can’t control his negative urges.
- Complains of everything, swears at you and the world. He is going to be a hard person to please.
Remember that when you choose your friends, do not be shortchanged by choosing personality over character. Personality may be interesting but you can’t rely on that in the long run.
